Top 10 Signs You Might be Dating a Professional Liar/Cheater

So I got a call from a friend a couple of weeks ago and as we were catching up on what was going on in our lives, I asked her if she was still seeing "Bob."  She said, "No, and I will never see that scumbag again."  Turns out "Bob" just got married, has a baby on the way, and has been lying to her for months. When she confronted him with this new information, he said it was all true, but they were married on paper only, and that he would still like to see her.  Are you kidding me????  She has not seen or talked to him since.

Having had some "interesting" dating experiences, and for my friends out there who are having serious doubts about their man, I have compiled a top 10 list for professional liars/serial daters. 

What I am about to share with you came from one person, yes one person.  When you read one of his many online dating profiles, he appears to be a great guy.  But, with this particular person, the answer would be to run away quickly before he sucks you in.  He is not who he appears and his online profile reads that he places high value on the following:

• Faith (Catholic and has not been to church regularly since July 2010).
• Honesty and communication (you can judge that one for yourself once you have read the list).
• Family (Four children living 250 miles away and he saw them twice in 2010 and less than five times in 2011).  He makes plenty of money and has tons of vacation time, so neither one of those is a valid excuse.

This goes to show you that everything you read on dating profiles is not as it appears. 

He might be a professional liar/cheater if.....

1. He has an active or hidden online dating profile (listen to your girlfriends when they think they saw his profile on Match or POF and check it out for yourself).
2. He hides his friends and wall posts on Facebook.  He will add you as a friend but will tell you not to post any messages or pictures on his page. (Well, when you are married and haven't told the GF this information, it makes perfect sense).
3. You find numerous hotel room receipts that were rented locally, while you were dating, and you were not there (he claims they were for work).
4. He is packing shorts, flip flops, warm weather attire when going to visit a cold weather state in November (turns out he was spending time in Tampa.  He would never tell me who, but it was an old GF I am certain).
5. You find a book on sexual addiction in the trunk of his car (he never did explain that one and denied it was his).
6. You suspect that he has a drinking problem.  This person has two DUIs - summer 2009 and fall of 2010.  (He didn't think I needed to know about the first one, and the second one he had to tell me because he had not one else to call to get him out of jail).
7. He does not answer your calls/text messages for hours and/or days on end.  When someone is usually where they should not be, they will be unavailable or will send very short, sporadic text replies.
8. He says "married" then changes his answer to "single" while he is applying for a loan and you are sitting right next to him.
9. He is extremely secretive with his phone.   When someone is a serial cheater they are usually very careful with their phone.  That is because they do not want you to see contacts, pictures, and text messages.  Now if you have an account together, easy to go online and look up history.  If you don't have an account together, still easy, just takes a little creativity. 
10. He will not look you in the eye when you are confronting him about something or he will answer your question with a question.  This type of person has a story for everything you will throw at them.  Trust me, I have heard it all.

So for those of you out there dating, hang in there.  I know that it is rough trying to find that someone special.

I am just saying that if he seems to good to be true, he probably is.  Listen to your intuition and to the advice of your family and friends.  Time is too precious to waste with someone who has serious issues.

Here's to getting off the comfort couch and living life ~ Lisa